Our mission is to engage students to build healthy relationships on campus.  No matter who you are, you will be empowered by knowing!  What tools can we students be given to assess our relationships? How can we nagivate relationship patterns, behaviors, and attitudes among fellow peers, friends, and couples?  How are we moving forward as a community?  This is our love revolution.     


Our student-run teacher's program, PICK a Partner (Premarital, Interpersonal, Choices, and Knowledge) sparked by Love Thinks, LLC, is designed to give students the tools, skills, and forum to develop, discover, and self-assess their relationships.  We recognize that there is pressure on campus for students to regard sex and relationships casually and, thus, we want to give a voice to fellow students who value sexual integrity and seek a space to exchange a genuine dialogue around these issues. We welcome the Columbia community into a rich and intellectual conversation on love, sexual integrity, commitment, and expression in sex, marriage, and family. 

We will refer to Dr. John Van Epp, author of How to Avoid Falling For a Jerk or Jerkette, and to his Relationship Attachment Model (R.A.M.).  Columbia Unhooked will reflect on social and cultural issues regarding sexual integrity, host P.I.C.K. classes, and organize relationship mentor training sessions.  We will also work alongside the nationwide Love and Fidelity Network to invite speakers and send students to their two annual Princeton conferences.  

In collaboration with Love Thinks, LLC © 2016, and Love & Fidelity Network © 2016




How to Follow Your Heart Without Losing Your Mind.

The PICK (Premarital, Interpersonal, Choices and Knowledge) a Partner program applies the RAM to singles' romantic relationships. The program teaches two main points. First, how to pace the development of a relationship in a healthy way so that the love is blind syndrome is avoided. Second, the program teaches five areas to get to know about a partner that accurately predicts what they will be like in a long-term relationship. 


1: A Bird's Eye View of Dating

This session presents an overview of the model of the dynamic, bonding processes involved in a growing relationship and how this model can be used for making a marital choice.

2: You Can't Marry Jethro Without Gettin' The Clampetts

In this session you will learn what you need to know about the hidden and often unexplored areas of your prospective partner

3: The Ingredients For The Recipe Of A Lasting Relationship

In this session you will learn what you need to know about the obvious but often overlooked areas of your prospective partner.

4: Why Is It That "Expectation Lead To Disappointments?"

In this session you will learn how a healthy trust can be developed from what you know about your prospective partner and how to grow in this trust and reliance while minimizing your vulnerabilities.

5: Putting The Cart Before The Horse

In this session you will discover the important role of committment and the protective sexual boundaries for the growing relationship with your prospective partner.

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